My Greener Grass: The Upside of Singlehood

(Not proofread, please bear with me.) I read this wonderful piece by Candice Benbow a few months ago.  It brilliantly addresses some of the downsides of singlehood, especially for Black women in the US, who often have higher rates of singlehood.  She was responding to an article written Emma Lindsay, which also summarized some of … More My Greener Grass: The Upside of Singlehood

Get Me The Hell Off of This Roller Coaster: The Cycles Of Singlehood After Divorce

I’m now 4 years out from my separation and over 2 years out from divorce.  One of the most challenging aspects of my post divorce life is the ups and downs of dating and relationships. It often feels like a roller coaster of emotions, and I can’t lie, I get motion sickness easily.  I’ve barfed … More Get Me The Hell Off of This Roller Coaster: The Cycles Of Singlehood After Divorce

6 Reasons To Avoid Relationship Articles Starting With Numbers, and 1 Reason Why You Should Click on This Long Ass Article Title Anyways.

I read way too much internet relationship advice, and as I’ve said before on here that much of the dating/relationship advice from the Internet is garbage.  Click bait bait articles with numerical titles are some of the most annoying advice columns. Now I promise you I’m a hypocrite here.  Little miss DrBB, social science professor … More 6 Reasons To Avoid Relationship Articles Starting With Numbers, and 1 Reason Why You Should Click on This Long Ass Article Title Anyways.

I Didn’t Tell Them He Was Repairing More Than Mama’s Shoes

Dating with kids is tough.  There’s no way around it, and one of the most challenging questions that we face as single parents is when, how, and if we should introduce our dating partners to our children.  With some folks it’s pretty easy, you know they aren’t long term material, and you can just avoid … More I Didn’t Tell Them He Was Repairing More Than Mama’s Shoes

“She Said She Was Curvy But She was Shaped Like a Straw”

You would think that folks in middle age would have developed the ability to take an outside look at themselves and truly assess who they are.  This inability to self assess manifests in dating, especially online dating.  I’ve always been warned about all of the evil liars in online dating, and yes, there are some … More “She Said She Was Curvy But She was Shaped Like a Straw”

“Once You Go Short Tall Is Your Last Resort” One Woman’s Take on Evolving Attractions

When I was younger, I loved me some tall dudes.  I think I had a thing for basketball players, maybe it was because I hooped myself or maybe it was something else more shallow.  I don’t think I ever dated a man under 6′, unless you count that brief crush in college on Karl, the … More “Once You Go Short Tall Is Your Last Resort” One Woman’s Take on Evolving Attractions