I’ve temporarily retired from the dating app game, but I’ve promised myself that I may pull a Michael Jordan and come back out like a hasbeen superstar. That said, I feel like I have enough experience to dish out useless advice to all 5 of the newcomers to the world that is online dating. I’m … More What He Really Means
Violence in families, particularly violence against women and children in families is all too common. I generally like to write about topics that are less heavy, but I’ve had a few friends experience terrible family violence over the last few weeks. I wish I had a simple solution; I wish I could just say leave, … More Let’s Talk About Violence and Abuse in Relationships
(Not proofread, please bear with me.) I read this wonderful piece by Candice Benbow a few months ago. It brilliantly addresses some of the downsides of singlehood, especially for Black women in the US, who often have higher rates of singlehood. She was responding to an article written Emma Lindsay, which also summarized some of … More My Greener Grass: The Upside of Singlehood
It’s been a few months since I posted anything. I guess there’s really nothing new in my dating or relationship situation to report on. Ok that’s a lie, a big old lying lie. Something has changed–I’ve given up. At some point I got so pessimistic about men and relationships, I just decided to stop trying. … More What Happens When You Give Up
I’ve noticed a pattern dating at in my 40s. About half the men I’ve go out with have a story. It’s a remarkably similar story even those these dudes don’t know each other. The tell me a story of woe. A lost young lady stranded in the wilderness, but if it wasn’t for them saving … More Don’t Save Her; She Don’t Wanna Be Saved
I’m now 4 years out from my separation and over 2 years out from divorce. One of the most challenging aspects of my post divorce life is the ups and downs of dating and relationships. It often feels like a roller coaster of emotions, and I can’t lie, I get motion sickness easily. I’ve barfed … More Get Me The Hell Off of This Roller Coaster: The Cycles Of Singlehood After Divorce
I read way too much internet relationship advice, and as I’ve said before on here that much of the dating/relationship advice from the Internet is garbage. Click bait bait articles with numerical titles are some of the most annoying advice columns. Now I promise you I’m a hypocrite here. Little miss DrBB, social science professor … More 6 Reasons To Avoid Relationship Articles Starting With Numbers, and 1 Reason Why You Should Click on This Long Ass Article Title Anyways.
I got into my office and started checking my email, one of my least favorite activities. It was late 2013; I was separated, and gearing up for my day in divorce court. There in front of me was the email The last time I tried this, it didn’t go as planned. Here I go again. … More I Will Always Be Grateful For You
This is going to sound as arrogant as fuck, but I’m saying it anyways. I’ve got a fan club. I don’t call it a fan club. I actually call it a Man Club. These are men who fit into a few different categories–men who think I’m sexy and want to have a fuck buddy, men … More I’ve Got a Small Man Club But…
I’d be remiss, if I didn’t point out how much attention I get from younger men. I’m routinely surprised at how fucking bold these young’uns are. I don’t have any profound post on younger men at this time (I’ve got a few good ones stored up in my head.), but I’m still trying to figure … More “If I Was 40 I’d Make Your Hot Ass Mine”
You Can Trust a Big Butt and a Smile 